Self-Control

Self-Control

There is a guy in my men’s group that talked about how he focuses on one word for the year. I thought it would be a cool idea but had no idea what my word would be. According to Google there are 171,476 words in the english language (less than I expected actually.) At the same time though we were doing a study of Titus and one word kept popping up. I had my word: self-control.

I chose self-control, not because I have none, but because I want more of it. As I said we were doing a study of Titus and there you can find the qualifications of a leader in the church. I would like to be seen as a leader in my church. Even if I am only leading 5th and 6th grade students, I want to be the best leader I can be. Just after those qualifications though Paul talks about what we should focus on.

“But you are to proclaim things consistent with sound teaching. Older men are to be self-controlled, worthy of respect, sensible, and sound in faith, love, and endurance.”
‭‭Titus 2:1-2 CSB‬‬

I thought to myself, “Great, I can work on that I can focus on that.” Then I kept reading and saw another verse.

“In the same way, encourage the young men to be self-controlled”
Titus 2:6 CSB‬‬

I began to focus on the modifiers, one was for older men and one was for younger men. Paul shortened the list and all that was left was self control. I realize that in some of my circle of influences I may be an older man and example, but in most I would consider myself to be a young man. So, this year I will focus on self-control.

What does it mean to be self-controlled?

Self-control is a pretty easy word to define, it means to control the self. This year I am going to work more on controlling a few things about myself.

  • How I spend my finacnes
    • This is probably going to be the hardest area for me. There are so many cool things out there that I can have delivered to my house in two days max, some cases two hours. Where I spend my money says a lot about me. Right now it says that I think more about myself than others. I am going to use my money this year for God. It is his anyway, I am just the current steward.

      “Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy? Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good, and delight yourselves in rich food.”
      ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭55:2‬ ‭ESV‬‬

  • What food I put in my body
    • There was a time in the not so distant past when I would not have eaten anything processed. Fast forward 4 years and 30 pounds and if it tastes good, I eat it. As much as I like to think God loves Chick-fil-A, I don’t think he likes the amount that I am consuming. I think I can do a better job glorifying God with what (and how much) I consume this year.

      “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
      ‭‭1 Corinthians 10:31‬ ‭ESV‬‬

  • How I spend my free time
    • If you read my last post I love to spend time watching Netflix. I also love to sit and stare at my phone. The thing is there are lots of things that I want to do and doing nothing gets in the way of that. There is so much for me to learn and I crave knowledge. Wasting my free time accomplishes nothing

      “So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.”
      ‭‭Psalm 90:12‬ ‭ESV‬‬

  • My thoughts, words and actions
    • I tend to let my words flow before considering them. I let my thoughts get away from me and my actions are not as guarded as they ought to be. This year I plan to improve. I will guard my thoughts so that hurtful words and actions do not follow. I will think of others so that helpful words and actions will flow freely.
    • “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”
      ‭‭Proverbs 10:19‬ ‭ESV‬‬

How am I going to do this on a daily basis or even minute by minute? I’m not sure, likely with a great deal of accountability, to myself and others. As I discover what works best for me in this endeavor I plan to share it here. If you could focus on one word for the year what would it be and why? Write it down. Think it over. Put it into action.

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